Accountability – yikes!
One rehab organization defines it as this:
Actions toward or involving others that reflect the integrity of the person you want to become
The Bible lays it out best in Ecclesiastes 4:8-13 (Amplified, again, read LOUDER for full effect)
8Here is one alone–no one with him; he neither has child nor brother. Yet there is no end to all his labor, neither is his eye satisfied with riches, neither does he ask, For whom do I labor and deprive myself of good? This is also vanity (emptiness, falsity, and futility); yes, it is a painful effort and an unhappy business.(A) 9Two are better than one, because they have a good [more satisfying] reward for their labor; 10For if they fall, the one will lift up his fellow. But woe to him who is alone when he falls and has not another to lift him up! 11Again, if two lie down together, then they have warmth; but how can one be warm alone? 12And though a man might prevail against him who is alone, two will withstand him. A threefold cord is not quickly broken. 13Better is a poor and wise youth than an old and foolish king who [a]no longer knows how to receive counsel (friendly reproof and warning)–
Are you one of these people who says “I’ll listen to the Holy Spirit, not man?” Are you one who refuses to be accountable or to have anyone peer into your life to ensure integrity? I’m sure you have no credibility in your witness, and probably are weak and cold. You may ask “why are you so sure?” My answer: Because of this scripture.
Beware of becoming too spiritual to receive friendly reproof and warning!
Accountability is a beautiful thing. Having someone in your business is a good thing! We get all frustrated with folks getting into our lives and picking at us unsolicited, don’t we? However, when there is someone you trust in your life who has irrevocable permission and freedom to bring reproof and warning, then the unsolicited stuff has nothing to find. I have noticed that folks that are always running around saying “why are people always in my business, why are people always judging me?” have closed or at least been guarding all doors of accountability.
Here’s what I mean about guarding doors: Only opening the door of accountability SOME of the time and hiding stuff from the person you claim to be accountable to. It is imperative that you disclose the whole truth about what’s going on, and not just what makes you look good. What purpose does an accountability partner or covering relationship serve if you only paint the picture that you are near perfect to them?
Let those you trust to do this know that you not only give them permission to, but you expect them to ask all the questions. You expect them to correct and warn you about things you are doing or may be involved in. If your witness is weak or you are opening doors that will allow things into your life that shouldn’t be there, you should expect them to help you deal with those things. When they bring it up, it’s important that you receive what they are saying to you!
Don’t go through this walk alone. You will justify everything under the sun as being ok, and will put words in God’s mouth saying He’s ok with you living in sin – HE’S NOT. This is why people scream “don’t judge me” and will fornicate, lie, steal, cheat and continue to do so while calling themselves a child of God!
2 Corinthians 5:17 (NLT) This means that anyone who belongs to Christ has become a new person. The old life is gone; a new life has begun!
When we got saved, we didn’t just get Christ in our lives, we gave our lives to Christ. This means our will, our desires, our habits, our money – EVERYTHING! It also means we are not allowed to adopt the idea “I’ll do what I want, this is MY LIFE” unless we are referring to those who want us to “relax” and do what makes us feel good. We are crucified with Christ, everything we used to be, everything that we used to want – it’s dead. We are raised up brand new and are ready to live according to HIS purpose.
An accountability structure helps us keep our lives in check, and will help you to not look back to that dead carcass you left at the altar!
If you don’t have someone that you can trust who can walk with you, keeping you looking at God wants you to do, it’s never too late. Find someone today! In fact, find 2 or 3. Let God do a work in your life through them.